There are two things which annoy me a lot, when people waste food & when people shy away from the word sex.
We need to stop wasting food people and start talking about sex!
The first time I came to know how babies are born I was in my science class at the age of 12. And if my memory serves me right, I never got the birds and bees talk from my family members or any talk at all about safe sex. Actually, the first time anyone ever spoke about sex with me in my family was my mom, after I got married, at the age of 27. This is a huge gap of not talking about something that is of so much evolutionary importance.
Have you ever noticed how our parents will never use words like sex or intercourse when they talk to us about sex? They have their own set of words like; hope things went well last night? When are you planning for a baby? If the gap of not talking about sex ever till your late twenties didn’t already make you awkward enough, suddenly getting sly messages about them being aware of your now existent sex life will.
Why is it that we talk so openly about one person’s skin color/height/weight/age etc. before marriage or in general but straight away walk out of conversations related to sex?
We have to start talking openly about sex and from an early age. It’s important to start educating kids and young adults about sex before puberty hits them, they should at least know that children are not born when gods shower blessings.
How hard is it to explain that children are born when male and female genital organs meet? There are plenty of books and YouTube videos if you’re a millennial parent and very fewer excuses to not get educated first. One can start slow and go the scientific way. Show them some short videos or draw figures and show it to them. Make it an exercise in curiosity and science, just like how you want them to learn about the world around them.
Sex is not a taboo; we need to stop seeing it that way. Sex is the sole reason we exist as beings. Education is the most powerful weapon in this world. When we educate others about sex, about menstruation, about puberty, people will be more aware of these things.
Let me narrate a small story which will put in perspective why I think about this so strongly. This is what I experienced when I was around 14 years and my sister were around 10. It was Saturday evening and we were happily walking around our colony to go meet our friends in the other building. Suddenly an old man came on his scooter and politely asked me if I can help him with an address. This was like 5 in the evening and we were in the middle of a busy road. He showed me a small card which had an address on it. As soon as I looked up to tell him that, I don’t know about this address he pointed his fingers towards his penis which was hanging out of his pant. I froze. My sister was too young to understand what was going on. But I knew that this was not right. There were thousands of things going on in my head at that moment. What if my sister sees that? What is this person trying to do? But then without blinking for another second I ran from that place with my sister in hand. My parents were just around the corner. I narrated what happened to them and eventually they did catch hold of that guy and as expected a lot of girls came out and spoke about the same thing happening to them. That incident is still so fresh in my head. I was not scared but I was disgusted. I felt like why would someone of that age do that? Sometimes when I look back, I think I was lucky to know what that person was doing was wrong and took the action accordingly. Trust me this was just one incident. I have faced quite a few like these and I am sure many boys and girls face such people almost on a daily basis.
Although, one can only dream of a day when sex, condoms, puberty, menstruation, kissing, hugging etc. become a regular discussion topic at family tea time it is important that they do. When your daughter or son walk down the street and are faced with the same scooter guy, or an uncle or an aunt right at home they’ve to be prepared and know what a good touch/bad touch is. They’ve to feel comfortable to tell you and not feel ashamed or shy to speak with you. You have to be the next generations’ support system in every which way.
Believes that world peace is possible only when people stop judging each other & start accepting more. Prefers to live life one cheesecake at a time. Ordinary girl with small needs and strong opinion about women’s rights & animal welfare.
#Funfact Would prefer to die being known as the crazy cat lady.