“Motherhood is a biological fact, fatherhood is a sociological fiction”, Nivedita Menon, “Seeing like a Femininst”
When asked whom do you love most in the world, the one and the only answer is “Mother”. In many religions Mothers are compared to God. In India we worship many Goddesses like Mother Durga, Mother Lakshmi, Mother Kali. Why do we love our mothers so much? Why do we get so emotional when we hear the word mother? Mothers love us unconditionally and selflessly. They not only bring us to this world but also make us capable enough to face the cruel world. She herself will stay hungry but will always feed us. Without a mother or without a mother this whole world, the whole humanity can’t survive.
Recently, in an interview Kareena Kapoor told the press that she isn’t opting for a sex determination of her child and it doesn’t matter whether it’s a girl or a boy. She also added that “It’s very intrusive when people ask me if it’s a boy or a girl. I am a girl and I would love to have a girl.” However, that’s not the way every other would be mother thinks.
Doctor: It seems difficult to abort the child, it’s too late!
Woman: Please help me this is the second time otherwise my husband will divorce me and get married to someone else.
Doctor: Let me check the possible consequences. Still, would say it’s a major risk
Woman: I just want to get rid of this, please.
This is a fictitious conversation; however, if we try to do a sting operation in some hospitals in India I am sure this would be a regular story.
Why female fetuses are killed?
Killing a girl child is a common practice in some parts of our country. Female feticide is the process of aborting female fetus inside the womb of the mother before the birth. The sex determination tests like ultrasound scan reveal the gender of the child. Both female foeticide and sex determination are illegal in India.
In India boys are considered the bread winners and are expected to support their families. On the other hand, parents and especially the society considers a girl child a burden as they have to give a huge amount of dowry at her marriage, they also consider that the girl are the consumers whereas boys are the producer, there is also a myth that sons will carry the name of the family whereas the girl has to get married and go away one day. It is a shame for those parents who are desperate for the baby boy and abort the girl. India is a male dominated society, so women generally don’t enjoy the status and power that men claim to. Women are always considered to be as dependents, they are even deprived of basic rights. Illiteracy, insecurity and poverty in the society are some of the main reasons of such practices being followed.
In India 10 million girls have been killed in the past 20 years. Of the 12 million girls born in India 1 million do not see their first birthday. It has been six long decades since India gained independence but many Indians are still trapped in age-old traditional beliefs. In 2011 Kerala’s Sex ratio was 1084, where as
Lakhanpal, a small village in Punjab has turned the tide, with 1400 girls for every 1000 boys.
It is high time that we stop seeing girls as a burden. She is a cure for our society. She is the creator of the society. We have so many great women leaders, writers, scholars, actors and educators like Indira Gandhi, Mary Kom, Mother Teresa, Kiran Bedi, Kalpana Chawla, Arundhati Roy, Sarojini Naidu, Neerja Bhanot, Sania Newhal, Sania Mirza, Rani Laxmibai P V Sindhu, Sakshi Malik and every indian mother, daughter, sister and wife. Do we need more examples?
The boys won’t be on this planet if it was not for the women who gave birth to them.
A mother is also a woman “STOP” Female foeticide, Save Girl Child….
Otherwise the nightmare said in the beginning will come true…the choice is yours
“Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao”.
शर्म आ रही है ना उस समाज को
जिसने उसके जन्म पर खुल के जश्न नहीं मनाया
शर्म आ रही है ना उस पिता को
उसके होने पर जिसने एक दिया कम जलाया
शर्म आ रही है ना उन रस्मों को उन रिवाजों को
उन बेड़ियों को उन दरवाज़ों को शर्म आ रही है ना उन बुज़ुर्गों को
जिन्होंने उसके अस्तित्व को सिर्फ़ अंधेरों से जोड़ा
शर्म आ रही है ना उन दुपट्टों को उन लिबासों को
जिन्होंने उसे अंदर से तोड़ा
शर्म आ रही है ना स्कूलों को दफ़्तरों को रास्तों को मंज़िलों को
शर्म आ रही है ना उन शब्दों को उन गीतों को
जिन्होंने उसे कभी शरीर से ज़्यादा नहीं समझा
शर्म आ रही ना राजनीति को धर्म को
जहाँ बार बार अपमानित हुए उसके स्वप्न
शर्म आ रही है ना ख़बरों को मिसालों को दीवारों को भालों को
शर्म आनी चाहिए हर ऐसे विचार को
जिसने पंख काटे थे उसके
शर्म आनी चाहिए ऐसे हर ख़याल को
जिसने उसे रोका था आसमान की तरफ़ देखने से
शर्म आनी चाहिए शायद हम सबको क्योंकि
जब मुट्ठी में सूरज लिए नन्ही सी बिटिया सामने खड़ी थी
तब हम उसकी उँगलियों से छलकती रोशनी नहीं उसका लड़की होना देख रहे थे
उसकी मुट्ठी में था आने वाला कल और सब देख रहे थे मटमैला आज
पर सूरज को तो धूप खिलाना था
बेटी को तो सवेरा लाना था
और सुबह हो कर रही
– प्रसून जोशी