‘In India we don’t hesitate to have sex, but when we have to talk about it, it’s against our culture.’ 😛
As we all know, discussing about sex related topics or educating children on sex (at home)- the do’s and don’ts etc. these are highly BANNED topics at Indian homes for whatsoever reason it be. These are commonly faced problems we are facing from the very beginning.
Ultimately it is left to the kids themselves as to how they would like to learn and understand on these topics.
Parents feel :-
1. Kids will pick up what they need to know and at the right time.
TRUTH: Kids are constantly picking up sexual messages from the television, internet, books, pen drives (passed on by their friends) etc. Most of them do not promote healthy sexuality and hence leads to misinformation. From adults they may pick up the message that there is something wrong about feeling comfortable about sexuality. Hence these topics continue to never be discussed about.
2. If you talk to kids about sex, they will have to tendency to try it.
TRUTH: Children who are well informed and comfortable in talking about sex with their parents are also the least likely to have intercourse when they are adolescents. Knowledge does not lead to inappropriate behavior, whereas a lack of information poses greater risks.
3. Kids in school are too young to know about sex.
TRUTH: In every subject, let it be chemistry, physics, mathematics etc, students are given a foundation in the early school years that is expanded upon in later years. Children are often curious about issues related to sexuality and need accurate, age-appropriate information. Children also need to learn the correct names of all their body parts so that they can tell someone if they have been sexually abused.
4. Schools conduct sex education, so we needn’t discuss it at home.
TRUTH: Home based sexual health educations are more effective. It not only leads to a better understanding amongst the kids but also leads to a better parent-child relationship. By discussing such topics a child would feel that his/her parent is there for him/her. And later in the journey of life, if that child ever encounters any sexual abuse, molestation etc., the child could more freely report it to the parent rather than feeling shy and humiliated.
5. Sex after getting married is the ‘healthiest’ kind.
TRUTH: Unfortunately, a marriage license isn’t a magical key to a “healthy” and pleasurable sex life. In fact, sex within marriage is not even always consensual, and sadly, rape occurs within the institution of marriage every day. Remaining a virgin until marriage doesn’t guarantee a “healthy” sex life any more than having sex before marriage does.
Living in a country where the population is soaring over a billion and quarter, definitely these many people have not been born due to God’s Mercy (a gift). They have been born because a man and woman had sex. In other words, so many people having sex , so many babies been born and still WE are shy to talk about sex. We definitely have some issues out here!
(A funny video that would give one an insight on how sex education is being conducted :-
– Ann John (Left)