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Eve teasing is a euphemism used throughout South Asia, which includes (but is not limited to) India, Pakistan Bangladesh and Nepal for public sexual harassment or molestation (often known as “street harassment”) of women by men, where the name “Eve” alludes to the very first woman, according to the Biblical creation story. (Wikipedia)
While traveling in the local buses, trains women are touched, pressed everywhere and it’s difficult to judge whether it was a mistake or done with purpose. One of my friend who was traveling in a local bus in Hyderabad, had also become victim of one such incidents. She was sitting beside her friend on an aisle seat, the bus was full packed due to office hours. After some 10 min she realized something unusual. The man who was standing beside her started rubbing his penis against her hand. In the beginning she didn’t realize but later on it was clear that he was doing it intentionally. She later exchanged her seat with the friend but the man continued his action at the end my friends had to leave the bus at the next stop.
I also remember one such incidence that happened to Lucy and that was much talked about on the social media. http://lucysmilesaway.com/2015/03/15/staying_safe_in_india/ is the link of her blog where she has narrated her experience.
From small towns to metro cities eve teasing is everywhere. So what could be done for it? Women can scream, use pepper spray, use some self-defense scheme etc. However,recently we came to know about the SHE team which was launched in 2014, to punish eve-teasers has been successful in Hyderabad city. Currently, the government has expanded its functioning to all districts. Government has even launched SHE-cabs in the city. So, we thought of interviewing Mr. Mahesh Bhagwat, Commissioner of Police Rachakonda, Telangana, who has been instrumental in closely working and monitoring SHE Team since its launch.
Mr. Bhagwat hails from Pathardi, Ahmednagar, Maharashtra and holds an Engineering degree from Government College of Engineering Pune, he also holds a bachelors degree in Law. He has received numerous prestigious awards one of which is the President award for meritorious service.
ThatMate: What is SHE team?
Mahesh Bhagwat :SHE is a zero tolerance team for women’s safety, which functions directly under the assistant commissioner of police crimes but is supervised by the commissioner of police . We carry out sting operations with our team of around 5 police personnel and our lady staff acts as a victim. The team is provided with spy cameras to record the conversations and movements. The aim is to curb eve teasing in all forms, at all places, providing safety and security to women in the society, facilitating healthy environment for womens’ and thus building up their confidence.
TM:How does SHE team function?
MB: SHE team comprises of five police (Men and Women police) personnel in civil dress who are provided with small Spy cameras to record the movements of suspect. These team members identify the busy places like Bus stops, Railway stations, colleges, women hostels or other crowded places. The team moves in this area and observes the behavior of the eve teaser and records their movements with the secrete cameras. The details of the stranger is kept secret in central database and his activities are monitored daily. Legal action is initiated as per provision of law.
Another source of information is Whatsapp number 94906 17111, after receiving the complain on this number, a lady staff calls the victim and collects all the information about the victim and the place. Afterwards a detailed investigation is done against the accused and proper legal action is taken.Legal action is taken depending on the marital status and age of the person. If he is a married male then in the front of his wife and if unmarried then in the front of his. And if the boy under 18 year old he is given counseling by professional counselors and psychiatrists. The accused are given counselling sessions bi-weekly in front of their family members.
TM: Why do you think there is so much of eve teasing or crime against women in India? And is it possible to reduce such incidences?
MB: Women in India are not treated equally as their male counterparts and that starts form our own houses. We start telling our boys to take risks and not to help in house hold chores however girls are told to be non-opinionated and non-risk takers. While when it comes to household work they are supposed to be perfect. This mentality has to be changed. Also, sexuality education is not provided properly. Kids are curious and they need to know the right things at the right age however, their questions are unanswered and the reasons given are this doesn’t fit in the culture of India.
Yes, it is definitely possible to reduce such instances through proper sex education right from home. There shouldn’t be any discrimination between a girl and a boy in the family. They should be treated equally. I guess when a father will respect his wife, a son will respect his sister, his friend and mother.
पढ़ोगे लिखोगे बनोगे नवाब। खेलोगे कूदोगे होगे खराब। बचपन में यह जुमला अक्सर सुनने के लिये मिलता था। क्या आप विश्वास करेगें, आज यह बात विपरीत होती जा रही है। आज लोग खेल मे भाग लेते हुए तनाव के स्तर क…
शिश्न, लंड किंवा लवडा. माणसाच्या शरीराला असणारा, सर्वतः सुंदर आणि दखलयोग्य अवयव म्हणजे शिश्न. परंतु आपण जन्मभर अगदीच क्वचितवेळ या लंडच्या आरोग्यासाठी देत असतो. खरे पाहता आयुष्यात येण्याचे, जगण्याचे सर्वात महत्वाचे कारण आपल्याला लवडाच देतो मात्र आपण त्याचे कितीदा धन्यवाद करतो. आपण असे समजून चालत असतो की जसे आयुष्य पुढे जातं तसा तसा लंडही, मात्र हा घातक समाज आहे. जर योग्य निगा राखली गेली तर आयुष्यान्हार उत्तम लैंगिकता आपल्याला लंड देवू शकतो. त्याकरीता आवश्यक असणाऱ्या गोष्टी, पथ्य आपण व्यवस्थित पाळायला पाहिजे, जेणेकरुन शरीर जरी उतारवयाकडे जावू लागलं, तरीही आपला लंड म्हातारा होण्याचे विसरलेला असतो. परिणामी आपल्याला आयुष्यभर लैंगिकता उपभोगता येते. आज काही सोप्या गोष्टी बघूया ज्याने आपण आपल्या लंडचे आरोग्य बलवान करु शकू. फक्त यावरच अवलंबून राहू नका, तर चांगल्या युरोलॉजिस्टचा सल्लाही तुम्हाला उपयोगी पडेल.
वजन नियमन करा : माणूस जास्त लठ्ठ झाला तर त्याच्या शरीरात टेरेस्टेरोन बनण्यास अडचणी येतात. आणि वाढलेल्या चरबीमुळे टेरेस्टेरोन हे इस्ट्रोजेनमध्ये परावर्तीत होण्याची जास्त शक्यता असते. रक्तधमन्यांमध्ये येणाऱ्या अतिरिक्त स्थूलपणामुळे लंड अधिक काळ ताठर राहू शकत नाही.
स्मार्ट जेवण : आपल्या आरोग्यदायक आणि पोषणमूल्ये असणाऱ्या जेवणामुळे देखील लंड सुस्थितीत राहण्यास मदत होते. पूर्णपणे नैसर्गिक आहाराचे सेवन केल्याने लंडाकडे वाहणारा रक्तप्रवाह हा सुरळीत, न थांबता होत राहतो.
ताण कमी करा : शरीराला होणाऱ्या अतिरिक्त ताणामुळे शरीरात वाईट कोलेस्ट्रोल तयार होते. परिणामी रक्तधमन्या रुंद व्हायला सुरुवात होते. एड्रेनलाइन हार्मोन आणि कोलेस्ट्रोल तयार झाल्याने लंडच्या ताठरतेवर वाईट प्रभाव पडतो. यामुळे शरीरसंबंध ठेवताना अडचणी निर्माण होतात. कोलेस्ट्रोल हे शरीरावर मेद वाढवण्यास म्हणजेच चरबीचे पोषण करण्यास मदत करते.
तंबाखू सोडा : तंबाखूजन्य पदार्थाचे सेवन तसे संपूर्ण शरीरालाच घातक. तंबाखू हे रक्तवाहिन्या रुंद करते. रक्तप्रवाहास बाधा पोहोचणे, ऑक्सिजन पुरवठा कमी करणे, अशा घातक परिणामांनी शरीरातील प्रत्येक अवयवास हानी करणे अशी कामे तंबाखूमुळे होतात, म्हणून तंबाखू पूर्ण वर्ज्य करायला हवी.
अल्कोहोल कमी करा : थोड्या प्रमाणात घेतलेल्या अल्कोहोलमुळे रक्त प्रवाह वेगवान होतो, मात्र अल्कोहोलचे अतिसेवन हे लंडास कायमचे अपोषक बनवते, लंड काम करेनासा होऊ शकतो. – लिंग चतुर
Medically speaking, the hymen (derived from the Greek word for “membrane,” but not to be confused with Greek god of marriage) is more accurately referred to as the vaginal corona. Hymenoplasty surgery or reconstruction of the fabled “virginity” in women is on the rise in India. However offensive and patriarchal this may sound many women willingly or unwillingly go for this surgery so as to prove their grooms about their virginity and purity. However here are some facts about hymen to clarify your doubts which are based upon some urban legends.
What is Hymen?
It’s a little membrane that partially surrounds the external vaginal opening, and some girls are born without it!!! Yeah,it’s true and it is not uncommon to be born without a hymen, so don’t be afraid as to you won’t face any health related problems because of absence of hymen.
Hymen gets torn it does not “break” or “pop”
Contrary to popular belief only upon penetration there would be through perforation of hymen and there is bleeding the hymen is like just other membrane of body it gets torn in numerous ways, like from doing exercise or by simply cleansing it.
It is a common misconception that bleeding during first intercourse means the woman is a virgin, However the bleeding may occur due various factors like improper lubrication, rough sex and anxiety as it commonly said that first time sex is supposed to hurt.
One of the reasons hymen exists
In the womb, it is said that the hymen potentially serves as a protective barrier from germs and bacteria, but aside from that, scientists have yet to identify any significant physiological functions of the vaginal corona.
Around 0.5% of female population have imperforate hymen which is not penetrated by use of tampons or sometimes even by penis. In these cases the hymens are surgically “snipped away”! Hence it is kind of ironic that some women go for hymenoplasty surgery.
Bottom line is that it does not matter whether hymen is intact or not, all that matters is clearing your minds from the urban legends and from knowing the half truths.
Dr. Sangram Jadhav
We Indians know what “advancement” is. We’ve advanced a great deal right from the Big Bang. There’s progress in every sector of our lives – The resources available, and the way we use them. But are we able to refine our thinking the way we so easily optimize our computer systems?
There’s a stage in everyone’s life when they fall in love for the first time. Now this isn’t something that installs itself on demand; it appears whenever it wants. Age 5 or 50. People fall in love. But does our society accept this love?
Feeling differently for someone – Some people don’t even realize what is happening until it’s too late because they weren’t familiarized with these feelings at a certain age. Falling in love with someone, experiencing that sense of warmth and security around someone, experiencing your entire body throb because of a mere graze of your hands, seeing the look of affection in their eyes – all these are priceless feelings that everyone should accept. We must realize that they are natural and should in fact be welcome rather than taboo. We need to march in the direction of progress. But instead..
We hide. We lie. We keep secrets. We are scared to speak up. But not with our friends. They understand – they go through it too. And our families are progressing, steadily warming to new concepts. But however much they try to accept these changes, they weren’t born this way. They think of boundaries that may be too watertight for some people. These concepts are what our community has built for us. We must challenge them, and accept reality.
For example, Parents view spontaneous sexual acts on television or in movies. Ever so oft they just deem these to be unrealistic. They don’t understand that these things are more common than they’d expect. Maybe it’s not even their fault: they were brought up in a completely different age. But as the youth of the country, it is our job to advance towards a more transparent society – so that people understand that this happens, and it’s okay that it happens, because it’s a part of learning how to handle oneself. It’s a milestone in becoming an independent human being.
This brings me to the questions: Do our elders really understand what we go through when we fall in love? Are they supportive?
Are We There Yet?
Please share your views below.