Relationship

  1. For one thing, could you tell the person you're dating how far you're willing to take the relationship, and what your sexual boundaries are.
  2. Talk to yourself about being with someone, sharing time and emotions and also touching and being touched. These are decisions you need to make ahead of time not when you're in the middle of a make-out session and your date is pressuring you to go further. Once you know your limits, you need to be strong and secure enough to say "no" or "stop" if things are getting too hot and heavy.
  3. First plan your own ways to do conversation verbally or non-verbally. Don't base your readiness to date on what your friends are doing. If you've found someone you like and who likes you, you can start going out. But when you begin any new relationship, take it slow.
  4. Don't be alone with a person you don't know very well until you feel more comfortable with that person.
  5. Start gradually. Know exactly where you're going, what's happening every step of the way. You don't have to let the other person be in control of the date.

One very important question you need to ask yourself is whether this person is safe for you to date. Girls who've set their sights on older guys, beware. Dating a guy who's in high school when you're still in middle school, or who's a senior when you're still a junior college student might seem cool, but it could get you into a lot of trouble. There's a big difference between a seventh-grader and a ninth-grader when it comes to experimentation. By the time they're in high school, guys may have gone a lot further than you're ready to go.  A study of girls who had older boyfriends found that junior college girls who dated junior or senior boys were more likely to go further, and to be forced into doing things they didn't want to do.  A good rule of thumb is not to date anyone who is more than one grade ahead of you.

You can get tons of pages listing things such as 10 signs a guy likes you etc! It doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone. However, the general thumb rule you can look out for is - He seems genuinely interested to know you, treats you differently from others and with respect, takes interest in what you like and what you do, playfully and lightly touches your arm etc and lastly observe his body language- it usually gives everything away! 🙂

Focus on the person you like, is it because of looks or the same interest areas of both. You also want to be with someone who will treat you right. One clue is the way they treat their friends, teachers, and parents. If you're not totally sure about this person, ask yourself if it's worth getting into the relationship. Also get your friends' input about whether the person is worth your time.

The first is ability to stay in the calm zone. Young children often get mad.  When mature people feel angry, they change the subject or take a break to get a glass of water for a few minutes.

Second, learn to listen:  listen for what you agree with, for what you can learn about or from that person.

In healthy relationships, both folks are genuinely interested in understanding and learning from each others’ perspectives. Third is sharing fun times. In healthy relationships both partners genuinely enjoy time together. They make a priority of sharing activities together, making time to talk together, and being intimate together.

Positivity includes appreciation, agreement, humor, warm smiles, affection, gratitude; shared fun times…all the good things in life.   To fix positivity level, take a day to count your Sunshine Factors. How many times during that day did you reach out to hug, smile at your partner, connect eye-to-eye, agree with something your partner has said, ask more questions with interest about learning your partner's perspectives, offer a compliment, etc.

Communication isn’t all about talking. Listening and being respectful are just as important. Healthy communication is a 2-way street. In a healthy relationship you can also talk about difficult stuff without insulting or hurting each other. You might not always agree, but you talk about your differences in safe environment, feel respected, and when you get heard. That means when you think about these things for you; you should do same thing for other person too. Healthy communication is not manipulative, mean-spirited, disrespectful, or one-sided. It’s not about getting your way - it’s about both of you being there for each other.

Healthy communication takes practice and planning. Here are some tips to get started.

  • Use "I statements.” Say things like, "I feel upset when you ___" instead of, "You're making me upset." Steer clear of blaming or accusing them of purposely trying to hurt you.
  • Be clear and direct. No one can read your mind, so tell them what you think, feel, and need.
  • Don’t push aside your feelings. Bring up things that bother you early on so they don’t build up and become bigger problems.
  • Build trust. Unless someone has given you a reason not to, believing that they’re telling you the truth and assuming that they mean well helps establish trust.
  • Ask questions. If you don't understand what they're saying or why, ask questions. Don’t make assumptions.
  • Talk in person. It's really easy to misunderstand or misinterpret a text message or email. Talking in person (or through video chat) will allow you to hear their tone of voice and see their body language.
  • Don’t yell. Getting angry or defensive during an argument is totally normal. But if you’re feeling upset or angry, take a break until you both cool off.
  • Be willing to apologize. Everyone makes mistakes. Saying you’re sorry (and meaning it) goes a long way in helping to move on after a fight.

One should check time to time about your feelings for your relationship. Following questions can help you to understand your feelings about any kind of relationships. After understanding your perspective, you should think from your partner’s perspective too.

  1. Does your partner listen to and respect your ideas?
  2. Does your partner give you space to spend time with your friends and family?
  3. Do you have fun spending time together?
  4. Do you feel comfortable telling your partner when something they do upsets you?
  5. Do you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings?
  6. Can you tell your partner what you like sexually?
  7. Does your partner make an effort to get along with your friends and family?
  8. Is your partner proud of your accomplishments and successes?
  9. Does your partner respect your differences?
  10. Can you talk to your partner about birth control and/or safer sex?

Understanding a relationship is complicated. But if your answers are yes for all, there is a healthy relationship between partners. And if there are two or more No in above question, then there are chances of unhealthy relationship.

Keeping your relationship in great shape definitely takes work. Talk to your partner about things that you think could be better. Be clear about what’s bothering you, and be respectful. Good communication is a big part of solving problems. If you have trouble working through things on your own, you might consider getting help from someone outside your relationship. Sometimes talking with a counselor or therapist can help couples work through issues and improve their relationships.

Sexual consent is an agreement to participate in a sexual activity. Before being sexual with someone, you need to know if they want to be sexual with you too. It’s also important to be honest with your partner about what you want and don’t want. Consenting and asking for consent are all about setting your personal boundaries and respecting those of your partner and checking if things aren’t clear. Both people must agree to sex every single time for it to be consensual. Without consent, sexual activity (including oral sex, genital touching, and vaginal or anal penetration) is sexual assault or rape. Here are the basics of consent.

Consent is:

Freely given: Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Reversible: Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed.

Informed: You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent.

Enthusiastic: When it comes to sex, you should only do stuff you WANT to do, not things that you feel you’re expected to do.

Specific: Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean you’ve said yes to others (like having sex). You get the final say over what happens with your body. It doesn’t matter if you’ve hooked up before or even if you said yes earlier and then changed your mind. You’re allowed to say “stop” at any time, and your partner needs to respect that.

There are laws about who can consent and who can’t. People who are drunk, high, or passed out can’t consent to sex. There are also laws to protect minors (people under the age of 18) from being pressured into sex with someone much older than them. The age of sexual consent is how old a person needs to be in order to be considered legally capable of consenting to sex. Adults who have sex with someone younger than the age of consent face jail time and being registered as a sex offender. The age of consent is different for different situations. There may also be other laws that define the age of sexual consent by government.

The chemical of bonding, evolved in other mammals even before the creation of people because survival—that is, ability to gather food, to fight off foes, and to raise offspring—all gets enhanced when two or more animals pack together. For many students the support from having a steady partner makes study and extra-curricular all the more interesting.

Being in a bad relationship, which creates anger, anxiety, distrust or other negative emotions, is probably worse than being without a relationship. Also, in college being in a relationship can prove too time-consuming. Relationships need nourishing with shared time.  

No relationship is perfect all the time. But in a healthy relationship, both people feel good about the relationship most of the time. A great relationship takes more than attraction — it takes work, and both of you have to be willing to put in the effort.

Here are some tips for building a healthy relationship:

Love yourself. Being comfortable with who you are means you’ll be a happier partner.

Communicate. Talk to your partner about your feelings. Ask questions and listen to their answers. Don’t make your partner try to figure out your mood. Talking through problems builds trust and makes your relationship stronger. Don’t share your problems always let your partner know about things that make you happy.

 Be honest. Be truthful with each other about your feelings, what you do, your thinking. Honesty creates trust. A lie can break trust and relationship.

Give each other some space. Couple’s time is great, but spending all your time together is not a good idea. It’s healthy to have your own friends and interests outside of the relationship.

Agree to disagree. You’re not always going see each. So to respect each other’s opinions and ideas is the important thing.

Forgive and ask for forgiveness. Everybody makes mistakes. So say sorry and accept your mistake and if your partner says sorry forgive him/her.

Support each other. Give positive compliments to each other and tell him/her that you are there to help in any possible way.

Talk about sex…openly and honestly. Tell your partner what feels good and what you like and don’t like, that helps you to have better sex. consent is a must - Never pressure your partner into doing something they don’t want to do, or let your partner pressure you.

Take care of your sexual health. Talk to your partner about safe sex practices and tests for STDs.

Nobody’s relationship is perfect, and people make mistakes. But there are some things that should never be present in a relationship, including verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, controlling behaviors and sexual abuse. The following signs will help you identify a bad relationship.

If Your partner is constantly:

1. putting you down, being critical, judgmental or discouraging you

2. pressuring you to do things that you don’t want to do (sexual or otherwise)

3. being extremely jealous or possessive (keeping track of your activities, not giving you personal space)

4.trying to control different aspects of your life (such as who you see, where and when, and what you wear)

5.You’re changing your behaviour because you’re afraid of what your partner might do or say.

Anyone can find themselves in an abusive relationship, no matter their age, gender, or sexual orientation. Movies and TV shows that depict abuse might give you the impression that an abusive relationship is only when someone is getting hit or physically hurt. But there are different types of abuse that can affect your body, your emotions, and your self-esteem.

Physical abuse means hitting, kicking, pushing, or hurting someone in any way.

Sexual abuse is forcing your partner to do anything sexual, from kissing to having sex. When you don’t consent to sexual activity, its considered sexual assault or rape, whether you’re in a relationship or not.

Verbal abuse is name-calling, put-downs, and using words to hurt someone.

Emotional abuse is when your partner tries to make you feel bad about yourself. That can mean hurting your feelings on purpose, jealousy, blaming you for the abuse, cheating, or continually criticizing you. Emotional abuse affects your self-esteem.

Reproductive control is pressuring your partner to get pregnant, end a pregnancy, lying about birth control, or other controlling decisions about pregnancy and parenting.  

Threats and intimidation use the threat of violence or abuse to control a partner. Threatening children, suicide, or physical violence are all ways to control your behavior.

Isolation is controlling who you see, what you do, and limiting your access to friends, family, and other forms of emotional and financial support.

Each relationship is different, and the signs of an abusive relationship can vary. But all of these behaviors are ways that one person tries to maintain all of the power in a relationship and control their partner. Sometimes abusive behaviors begin slowly and get worse as time goes on. If you’ve been feeling devalued, afraid, or controlled, get help. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where both people feel safe and are respected, trusted, and loved.

If you’re in an abusive relationship, know that you’re not alone and you deserve better. If your partner hurts you physically, emotionally, or sexually, remember: nothing you said or did justify their behavior. When you break up with an abusive partner, it’s important to have a safety plan if you’re afraid they might hurt you, your children, or other people you love. Contact government officials and authorities to get support and advice and check out their safety plan. If you’re in high school or college, you may find the safety plan at NGOs working for such issues. If you feel like you’re in immediate danger, get away from your partner and call 100.

It can be hard to tell if you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship. That’s because no relationship is perfect all the time. But in a healthy relationship, you and your partner feel good most of the time. If that’s not the case, your relationship might not be healthy.

These are some signs of emotional abuse:

  • Checking your cell phone or email without permission or checking in all the time,
  • Putting you down, calling you names, or starting rumors about you,
  • Threatening you,
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity,
  • Explosive temper,
  • Stopping or discouraging you from seeing friends/family,
  • Making false accusations or blaming you for causing their abusive or unhealthy behavior,
  • Physically hurting you in any way,
  • Possessiveness,
  • Telling you what to do or not do,
  • Pressuring or forcing you to have sex,
  • “Gaslighting,” or making you question things you know are true
  • Stalking you

Negative feelings tell you something’s wrong. If you often feel negative feelings like hurt, anger, boredom, annoyance, or anxiety when you are with your partner, something’s incorrect. Fix it, learn the skills for talking over tough issues and then fix it, or move on.

Relationships end for a lot of reasons. Maybe you’re not happy with your partner, or maybe you just don’t want to be in a relationship right now. Whatever the reason, breaking up can be tough.

These tips may help:

  • Think about what you're going to say in advance. You may even want to practice on a friend or in front of a mirror, or write out your thoughts.
  • Pick the right spot. Talk to your partner somewhere that’s comfortable for both of you. If you’re worried about safety, somewhere public might be the best choice.
  • Say it in person. If you feel safe, talk to your partner face to face. E-mailing, texting, or talking on the phone may sound easier, but it’s usually not the best option. And don’t ask a friend to deliver the news for you.
  • Be respectful. If your partner asks you why you’re breaking up with them, be honest — it could help them have better relationships in the future. But don’t insult them or try to hurt them.
  • Make a clean break. If you really want to be friends, that’s fine. But if you’re just saying “let’s be friends” to let your partner down easier … don’t. It can lead to more hurt feelings. Even if you plan to stay friends, give your partner some space. It may help to take a break from seeing or talking to each other for awhile.
  • Stick with your decision. If you feel like you’re doing the right thing, don’t let your partner try to convince you to stay together. It’s normal for someone to cry or get upset during a breakup, and that can be really hard to deal with. But feeling bad or guilty isn’t a reason to stay in a relationship.

No matter how old you are or how many relationships you’ve been in, getting over a breakup can be really hard. Let yourself be sad, angry, and hurt. Cry, listen to sad music, go for a run, write in your journal whatever helps you get your feelings out. Friends or family can be a great support system, and talking it out may make you feel a lot better. If nothing seems to help and you’re feeling depressed, you may want to see a counselor. Making a clean break may be hard to do, but it can help you focus on moving forward. Resist the urge to post bad things about your ex on Facebook or other social media — it can lead to a lot of embarrassment and regret. Finally, try not to feel bad about yourself. Your relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or that you’ll never find love again.

Developing a healthy relationship that suits you takes time and exploration. All healthy relationships have ups and downs, and learning to negotiate, discuss and move through the downs together is often what makes a relationship stronger. When discussing issues: Give the other person space to speak - good communication is about talking and listening, Use questions when responding to show them that you’re considering their view and When it’s your turn to talk, be as honest, open and clear as you can.

Talking within 24 hours is often a good rule of thumb. Immediate talk when something bothers you is problematic if you will be speaking in anger. Waiting too long means you’ll be unlikely to remember to discuss it.  Mistakes are for learning. When couples can talk over their mistakes in a cooperative and mutually respectful way, their relationship keeps getting better and better over time.

The minimum age of consent to have sex is 18 in India, legally. However, get to know your partner, talk to the person openly, read and learn how to practice safe sex before going into it.

Having a healthy sex life is good for you both emotionally and physically. Sex can help you create a connection with another person, and sexual pleasure has lots of health benefits — whether you’re with a partner or not. When you have an orgasm, your body gives you a natural high. You release endorphins, which are hormones that block pain and make you feel good. There are lots of other health benefits associated with sexual pleasure: better general health, better sleep, better self-esteem, better fitness, less stress and tension and a longer life.

Sex is largely treated as a taboo topic in Indian society. However, it is just a basic need of humans such as eating, sleeping for example. You would not exist if not for sex.

Communication is a really important part of any relationship, sexual or not. Saying, “Can we try ___” or, “That doesn’t feel good to me,” or, “I don’t feel comfortable with ____, can we ____ instead?” can actually make your relationship better. Talking about what you do and don’t want to do is a chance for you to be honest with each other and become closer. So ask questions and speak up! It’s also important to be a good listener. Let your boyfriend or girlfriend know that you respect their boundaries and feelings. This will make it easier for them to talk to you. Don’t make assumptions if you get mixed intentions. And never pressure or manipulate them into doing something they don’t want to do. Talk with your boyfriend or girlfriend about sex when you’re both comfortable and thinking clearly. talking doesn’t end after discussing once - keep talking during and after being sexual so to know you’re on the same page or not.

 Here’s how it’s done:

Step 1:Talking about sex isn’t a 1-time conversation. It’s a bunch of conversations that happen throughout your relationship.

Step 2: In a healthy relationship, both people are able to comfortably talk about consent, birth control, safer sex, and what feels good — without anyone feeling pressured or disrespected.

Step 3: Keep talking during and after being sexual so to know you’re on the same page or not.

A strong relationship is built on the foundation of trust and communication. If you’re not comfortable with having sex you should tell him/her openly and have an honest conversation about it. It’s important that a guy respects a girl’s boundaries and vice versa. If a guy is in love with such a girl then he should ideally not force her, neither should he stipulate conditions, to change her mind about it. Usually a girl who gives into having sex under, emotional or physical, pressure is likely to feel exploited, and this can highly tarnish the relationship.

संबंध

No. Known medicine, herbs or remedy can increase semen production. However, the quantity of sperms in the semen can be reduced in severe psychological stress.

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